Teachings of Crow Medicine – Power Animal Guidance- Crow Spirit Guide
Crow is the field in which all things occur. To Crow, what occurs is neither good nor bad because she is the space itself for all that is. To study Crow Medicine is to study the laws of Nature compared to the laws of Man. The laws of nature are non-negotiable and do not change.The laws of man are negotiable and ever changing agreements between people or cultures. Example:
The laws inherent to the element of fire are that it is hot and burns. Fire will always burn and always be hot. That is the law of its nature. It will never not burn and it will never be cold. If it is, it is simply not fire.
The laws inherent to the concepts of stealing are that people should not steal. But not stealing is not a law of human nature the way being hot is a law to the nature of fire. Some steal, some don’t. Human laws are agreements and very rarely is there a human law that is agreed upon globally.
A Natural law regarding the laws of man is: Every single person has their own unique perspective. This is law. That is to say, if you are a human, you MUST have your own unique perspective different from mine because if you did not, we would be the same person. You and I may agree on a great many things for many many miles on our life’s journey, but because we are two different perspectives, sooner or later our harmony will curve away and we will differ. We must. It is Natural law.
This fundamental truth about the nature of human reality can actually relieve pain. Here’s how: When I want something from you and you do not give it to me, that itself is going to hurt. Me believing that you SHOULD have given me what I am wanting is going to add to the existing pain of disappointment with an extra dose of anger at you for not doing what I want. But the truth is, you are not in any way required to do what I want you to do. It is not law. Our harmony, which can happen often, it is due to an agreement on both our part which is always voluntary and always able to be renegotiated. Interacting with people while keeping this reality in mind will reduce your expectations of others and you will find yourself being happy when things go well, sad when things don’t go well- but not angry about it. Anger occurs when we believe we should be given something we were not.
Nature- as in, the great outdoors- is not negotiable and has no responsibility to be so. A rock face is what it is. You can either climb it or you can’t. Getting mad at the rock face only hurts you. It does not hurt the rock. So accepting the reality of the rock face is an efficient use of your energy. Getting mad at someone for not being or doing as you wanted will not have a productive effect on that person. Like getting mad at a rock, it will waste energy.
Separate the events occurring with disappointment.
1.There is the feeling of sorrow about being deprived of something you need or want
2.And there is the anger about feeling you deserve to get what you need or want.
The first feeling is the healthy, graceful, though painful process of human experience. The second feeling is within your control to stop. No one actually deserves anything in particular. Not according to Nature. Wanting and deserving are very different attitudes. Wanting causes natural pain which eventually fades. Deserving causes unnatural pain which can go on and on to no end.
No one is required to do anything for you. Mothers and fathers do not HAVE to love. Husbands and wives do not HAVE to listen. It is not an inherent law of human nature that these behaviors occur. People do not have to do what you think they should do. You thinking that they should is what is causing the extra pain of anger and heartbreak. Lets be clear, you are certainly well in your rights to want what you want. And going after what you want is very good. Keeping in mind that you want something rather than deserve it will reduce how much pain you feel when you do not get what you want.
It is everyone’s choice to be however they are. It is their right to behave however they want. As it is also your right to do the same. Making space for this inherent, nonnegotiable human law of nature will soften the blows of disappointment. The mountain does not have to be climbable just because you want it to be. You learning what it takes to climb it is the joy of life.
Not getting what you want will hurt enough without adding the resentment that people should not have let you down. Why shouldn’t they have? Who says they can’t? They can. And do. The truth is, people ARE mean and untrustworthy. They are also kind and dependable. We are both.
Crow is not bothered by dichotomy or contradiction. He can hold extreme polarities within himself and smile while doing so. Discovering the personal opinion of a Crow medicine person can be tricky because they are so capable of holding so many different perspectives at once, even perspectives that contradict each other. This ability comes from an inherent understanding that the essence of their being is space. Think of Crow as the playing field. She is the field. The space where all things can and will play out. To be alive means you MUST get into the game. That is a law of being alive. To not take action is action in itself in this dimension. So you WILL take a side on all matters whether you know it or not.
Sometimes we agree and sometimes we don’t. We live in a dimension of multiple perspectives. We do not live in a dimension with only one perspective. To live in a dimension with only one perspective would be an automated experience of an infinite state of being. Such dimensions DO exist and, in fact, one of those dimensions is the core foundation of ours- the bedrock of the third dimension is a state of Love. Non-negotiable, inexhaustible love. Go down deep enough and that is what you will find inherent at the core of all that is. From that core dimension of Love we spring forth into a realm of choices. The ability to chose how close or how far away we get from that inherent, nonnegotiable state of love is a profound pleasure that in fact deepens that state of love. The process of making choices expands the field love no matter what choice we make. The act of choosing is Good. And everyone gets to chose for themselves.
If you feel, because of our long track record together that you and I should agree on a point where I actually do not, you cause yourself added pain with that belief. My perspective is as it is at the time. And it is my right. It is law that I will have my perspective. Getting angry that I differ from you wastes your life energy in the same way kicking a mountain might. It is as it is. What is may cause discomfort enough without adding to it the belief that I should be different than I am. No, I should not. I do not HAVE to see things your way. It is not a law- in the ‘fire’ sense. Releasing an expectation of agreement will bring peace in the midst of our differences and give our relationship longevity.
Life is difficult enough without wasting energy on anger at someone for something they didn’t do but “should.” It is not true they should. It is true you believe they should. But the truth is, they don’t have to anything. No one is required to understand your views about anything. Letting go of the belief will take an edge off your energy and make you more approachable to the person you are wanting something from. If you want someone to harmonize with you, the work at hand is to learn how to communicate with peace and calm.
Life is unfair. This is law. Just look at Earth’s terrain. It is treacherous. Fairness in life arrises only in temporary collective events of mutual agreement which are magnificent, awe-inspiring, and full of grace. These moments happen all the time, but they are not required to do so. When we believe people are required to behave according to social agreements, we invariably meet with pain and anger.
Let’s be clear here. There is nothing wrong with wanting people to obey the laws of society such as no hitting, no stealing. That is a very good thing to want and most people do want that. The subtle key here is when our brain slips into believing that everyone MUST obey those laws. Remember- Fire MUST burn. That is a law. But people do not HAVE to be honest or peaceful. That is not a law. That is a collective agreement we hope and strive for but must constantly navigate. Expecting certain behavior to be followed will add a layer of anger to your pain. Where as if we remove that expectation we can navigate just the pain of the event, and not complexify the situation with self-induced mental anguish.
Not even mothers or fathers are required to love their children.
OMG! Did I just say that?
It is not a law that someone must love another. If it were, our social landscape would be much much different. The truth is many parents do not know how to love the child they gave birth to. They do not know how to love the child in the way that child needs. When society propagates the adage: “Mother knows best.” or “Father knows best.” we are collectively causing added mental pain to children with parents who simply don’t know best. It is not a law that parents know best. Many don’t. Some may. But ultimately it will be your evaluation skills that will determine if your parent is being helpful or harmful.
Crow is the space holder for ALL possible perspectives in this world. When we encounter Crow we are often at a loss as to how to interpret her messages because she holds so many variations. Her message may not be a specific transmission per se but rather a reminder to consider someone elses perspective. Her appearance in your day is a reminder that your perspective is not the only one. You are in a sea of perspectives.
She may also be asking you to get more clear about some issue in your life. Decide. Take a perspective.
She can also carry a perspective to someone else for you that you may be having trouble communicating with. Often when Crow caws I find myself thinking of one person or another and I feel that the crow is offering her service to carry one of my thoughts to that person. I reach down and find the message I want to convey to that person and send it to Crow. She then caws and flies off with my perspective. This service is always touching and I often light a fire for her as thanks. My relationship with Crow likes fire. Your relationship with Crow may like fire or some other element as an exchange. So pour water down or place a stone. See what feels right in your shamanic studies. It is your conversation with your world.
Crow medicine teaches you that you are both the whole field and the single player at once. You have an opinion AND space to change that opinion. The people you meet also have opinions and the space to change their opinions. In fact, a law of human kind is that your opinions simply WILL change. Crow says, let them. HAVE THEM! And let them go.
The ideas found in this blog can also be found in the book: Feeling Good by David Burns